What do I mean by that? A good friend and I were talking recently about life and difficult circumstances and how things are easier to handle when we're not fighting them. It's kind of like turning in the same direction as the skid marks.
My birth mindset, often relates situations in life to labor. So many times I see moms who are trying to fight the labor, or who are striving to make it happen. In labor, the first step is resignation. It's not an "I give up" mentality, it's a "I will go with this" mentality. It's not trying too hard, but it is just being, and accepting, and agreeing with what your body is doing. In one aspect it is surrender, in another it is victory. It takes letting go, and yet there is a beautiful reward in the end.