The big day is October 11. Where has the time GONE!!?? Hard to imagine it's really happening now, crunch time, table seating, R.S.V.P. confirmations, second dress fittings, bleaching teeth... now or never, [I] do or die, and the clock is ticking...
I don't know if it's by accident or subconsciously, but more than once I've clicked on the Bartender Blog instead of the Bride2Be Blog. He's got some good stuff on there!
Lots to do, but there have been some amazing life experiences along the way of wedding-planning... most notably, my fiancé and I, like, moved half-way across the country to Mississippi.
Then, very recently, we bought a house! Clear of Gustav and predictions for Ike's path undetermined, we made a break for Delta Title Company with our flood/wind and hail/homeowners insurance in hand and our closing costs in the suitcase, all marked bills, tens and twenties. I'm in the process of de-boxing the house now, with our home furnishings arriving last week in eleven freight containers.
In the meantime, I had the unique pleasure of going with my fiancé's two daughters to pick up their junior bridesmaids dresses and shoes. They are both teenagers, and I've had enough experience with teenagers to know that they defy the stereotype. Even I went through a "punk" phase at 13 and was a jerk to my parents, but these girls are two of the nicest, sweetest young ladies I've ever met. Since we now live in the same zip code, let alone the same time zone, I've been able to spend more time with them and get to know them better. This weekend, we're taking them to the second fitting and the next day- because everyone needs balance after an evening at David's Bridal- we're going to see Southern Mississippi play Marshall. If we were all still living in Alaska, I'd take them to an Aces game.
Around us are very exciting and new dynamics, relationships, and neighbors. Because much of it feels beyond 'newlywed' or let alone 'pre-newlywed,' it's easy to see how the business of life can test the 'honeymoon' phase of a relationship. But this is to be expected, and it reminds me how important it is to take nothing for granted.
Living in Alaska was a 'honeymoon' in itself: fishing, hiking, picking blueberries, setting the alarm on Saturdays to catch an 8 a.m. NCAA kick-off... it was a polar paradise! (20' below zero notwithstanding). And we were living thousands of miles away from both our families, missing them dearly, knowing distance can sometimes be a good thing.
Now, though we haven't left the honeymoon phase completely, I think Brian and I are entering a 're-integration' phase, like when astronauts re-enter the Earth's atmosphere after an amazing voyage into outer space... do you think they see things on Earth differently when they return?... Do they ask their crew mates if they'll still be friends on Monday?...
It's what making us grow as a couple. You have to, when your fiancé finds out his best friend has pancreatic cancer; or when he dislocates his knee walking down the stairs with the 999th overloaded box; or when you have to pack up important belongings before evacuating for a hurricane (only had to do that once so far, Danka Gustav).
It's all very exciting. It's scary. It's causing chronic indigestion. And I feel very lucky to be going through it with my best friend. If this is how the last month of our engagement feels, I CAN'T WAIT for our one year anniversary!!
...I need to bookmark that Bartender Blog...
PS- I give WOMAN, the new film with Meg Ryan and star-studded cast, two thumbs up. Even better than SEX & THE CITY. Maybe not necessarily 'better.' Just more grown up. And there is a fantastic baby-birthing scene with Debra Messing that just about made me wet my pants.