Birth & Beginnings: childbirth conversations

Hello mothers and mothers-to-be! This blog focuses on pregnancy, childbirth, children, and parenting. Along with providing helpful information and resources, it is also a place to discuss choices and trends in these areas. The blog will inform and encourage mothers as we share and learn from each other. It is not a place to say that one opinion is better than another; instead it is a forum for camaraderie and for sharing personal experiences. So feel free to read, respond, and absorb information on a daily basis as together we traverse this world of motherhood.


Laura Tolman, CCE, LSP

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Laura Tolman is a local certified childbirth educator and labor support professional. She also works as a postpartum doula. She and her husband are long time Alaskans and are the parents and forming relationships with families while learning about other cultures. In her free time Laura enjoys writing freelance articles, poetry, and the performing arts. Her favorite pastime is being with family and coaxing uproarious laughter out of her young son.

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Managing Stretch Marks

What causes stretch marks is not as important to pregnant women as what can be done to manage them. Causes range from rapid weight gain to genetics to hormones. What we as pregnant women usually wish for is a miracle. Some women truly do not have stretch marks appear throughout their pregnancy or they are very minimal. While others, have a body that they do not recognize afterwards.

Certain women develop a sense of low self-esteem and body image. While other mothers proudly show off their stretch marks and state that they are warrior wounds of motherhood! A spouse’s opinion of her post-pregnancy body can make or break a woman in many cases. My husband took one look at my stretch marks and exclaimed that it looked like a cool tattoo of an eagle on my stomach. Although this wasn’t exactly the compliment I was looking for, it was nice to know that they were not as big a deal to him as they were to me and they did eventually fade.

What can you do to prevent the itching and stretching? Mostly keep your skin hydrated, take your vitamins, and search out a good product that is safe for use during pregnancy. Unfortunately, I didn’t find a product until my third trimester with my first son, but once I got in the habit of applying it, my body felt the difference. I used the Belli product Elasticity Oil and then the Belli cream for after pregnancy to reduce the appearance of stretch marks. Bio-Oil is supposed to work wonders as well. Also there are coco butters and creams that some women swear by.

If your stretch marks do not fade as much as you would like after pregnancy, you could take it to the next level and purchase a scar removal product such as Mederma. However, ensure that you are not nursing a baby when you use such strong products. Mothers of all ages are now opting for micro-derm abrasion to lightly remove the top layer of skin and allow new more elastic skin to grow in its place. There is even a laser/light therapy that some women are trying.

In the end, keep a positive attitude and stay focused on the fact that you are growing a baby. Bringing a life into the world is a calling worth stretch marks in my opinion. And if someday your child asks you about the faded silvery lines on your tummy, you can smile and explain the miracle of how you carried them in a womb home all their own before they were born.

What do you think about stretch marks? Do you know of any amazing products?


  3     November 21, 2008 - 5:02am | ceejay2005

It stands as good a chance,

It stands as good a chance, if not better, of improving the appearance of your stretch marks as something like vitamin cream would. if i were u i'd give it a try.

when i was pregnant i used coco butter cream - and i still got stretchmarks... i wish i'd tried bio oil.

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  2     May 28, 2008 - 8:32am | Jennifer8055

stretch Marks - found something that works

Hi ,

I always had pretty bad stretch marks and red scars around my belly region ever since I gave birth to my three kids.I had tried Vitamin E oil and cocoa butter which a number of people had recommended but it didn't seem to work. My Doctor had even suggested a Tummy Tuck. I then recently read an article about a lady who supposedly got rid of her stretch marks using a particular cream. I tried it and it worked really well. Within 4 weeks my stretch marks were very much faded and they soon disappeared You can read more about the lady's article at the link below.

http://stretchmarkszapped.wordpress.com

  June 1, 2008 - 11:09pm | mamas

Thank You

Thanks for the website and testimony. I am always gathering information on this topic. Genetics are not in my favor in the field of stretch marks and I may give this product a try at some point because I'd love for my skin to heal. Thanks!

  1     April 4, 2008 - 2:27pm | Beth_451

My 2 cents . . .

I'm not an expert on this by any means, but coconut oil is one of my all time favorite skin lotions, massage oils, and skin healers. It is antibacterial and antifungal and promotes elasticity and healing in my skin. I will definitely use it on my pregnant body since I use it on my non-pregnant body and it works great!

  April 4, 2008 - 7:07pm | mamas

Maybe I should try Coconut oil

I know that most kinds of oil are good for the skin's elasticity and coconut oil is very natural. I might even give it a try, it sounds nice-- Laura Tolman

  April 4, 2008 - 3:23pm | servicesmanager

bio oil

I'm 25 weeks and so far, so good; I've been using bio oil since about week 13 or so. I feel indulgent caring about stretch marks, but I've always been insecure about my body, so why not try to prevent something that might make me more insecure?

  April 4, 2008 - 7:05pm | mamas

Thanks

I'm glad to hear that the bio oil is working for you, drop a post later on to tell us if it worked all the way through pregnancy. I think its good to take care of our bodies and to at least try and prevent stretch marks :-)

-Laura Tolman